question your problems
If you find yourself going through difficult times and your mind getting stuck in a bad place, you can try to ask yourself two simple yet powerful questions. It helped me. Maybe it could help you, too.
OK, let's start.
What exactly is wrong in this very moment?
Really stop to think it through, as objectively as you can. Answer it properly. Take your time. Don't rush.
Then, the second question:
Are you in actual danger?
As in, is your problem directly causing or putting you at risk of actual harm, damage, or death?
Probably not.
Instead, could it be that your problems are simply a result of reality or your life not being what you hoped it would be at this very moment?
Maybe things just aren't how you would want them to be, right now.
If so, your problem isn't real. It's not rooted in reality. If you stopped existing, so would the problem. Like a dream, or perhaps like VR: It may feel real, but isn't.
Now, let me be very clear with this last part because it's important.
This doesn't minimize or deny the pain you're experiencing in any way.
Your pain is real.
In fact, it's the only thing that is. So don't feel bad or small for feeling it. But don't fear the pain, either.
Perhaps you're still thinking: OK, sounds cool, but what about my problems? What am I supposed to do with those?
Well, if that's the case, here's a third question:
How do you deal with problems you face in your dreams — your imagination?
You got this!
Question your problems, not your pain.